Friday, August 20, 2010

EX BOYFRIEND PROBLEM PLEASE HELP- KINDA LONG SO IF YOU WANT TO READ PLEASE HELP ME. NO ONE ANSWERED LAST TIME?

my problem- my ex and i of 10 months broke up about 3 months ago. we always kept in contact after the break up- with fights, regular talking, or meeting up to talk about our problems with ';us';. we broke up because of alot of things that is now in my past..kinda ( him talking to his ex ) i really was hurt by this and its so hard to get over the fact that i heard he cheated on me even though he assures me its not true. they are friends and the thought of that makes me nasueas. He is a great guy on the inside, and he shows that to me all the time. We were and i think still are in love, but for me its hard to be that fun bubbly person i was when i was with him because i tend to pick stupid fights because the truth is im not fully recovered from the thought of him and the other girl, just them being friends makes me upset. He always puts her down and says shes nothing to him. we are now talking daily again like we used to, we have hung out now several times alone, and we talk on the phone at night for hours, which idk if thats a bad idea. I feel like in his head he has the best of both worlds, he has a girl he can talk to and feel comforted by and hang out and kiss when he feels, and then his other life which is hang out with his new group of friends and not have to feel like he needs to invite me or have strings attached cause he has no gf now.





i love him still, but i feel like our realtionship is so boring now. i cant say the things i used to as much bc were not dating, and i tell myself i am not going to just wait for him but to be honest without him i was miserable, i was so depressed and was a wreck, my mood was horrible 24/7. still i feel like i give him problems when i shouldnt and it ends in us in little tiffs with one another which bothers me as well because thats just hurting ';us'; i really want to know if he wil eventually ask me back out, because like i said i cant do this forever.





were 17, and have known each other for a while. we are very close, and tell each other basically everything, but when were apart i feel if i tell him i want more then this, it will push him further away because maybe he doesnt want the commitment.





he is not a doushe bag to me, he is very sweet,caring,chamring, and i really didnt expect him to hurt me like he did, but he seems to be getting better. I am not going to defend him too much, but i dont want the image in your heads to be he is a as*hole and get rid of him





leaving him right now is not an opiton really because i think it would be too hard to let go right now. were on good terms at the moment and it would be bad if i said its over esp cause i feel like he would be mad and do something with that girl ( just because i ended it)





my question is how do i get out of my ';black hole'; of being mean and causing fights with him because i cant get over the past compleltly, he is always ressuring me he doesnt talk to her much anymore, but its like word vomit, i always am like '; so hows you and ___';


also another question is do you think he will ever get around to asking me back out, or do you think he is too involved in his friends and other things to want a commitment, i know guys hate it so what do you suggest i do? talk to other guys? play hard to get? help meEX BOYFRIEND PROBLEM PLEASE HELP- KINDA LONG SO IF YOU WANT TO READ PLEASE HELP ME. NO ONE ANSWERED LAST TIME?
OKAY ! ( lot of reading might I say )





First off didnt act hard to get. That just makes the guy feel like you are not worth fighting for and that you look ridiculous. Basically you end up looking stupid at the end, when you thought that it was really working.





Act like yourself all the time, but just hold up on all the questions with the whole girl thing. JUST LET IT GOOOOO ! I know that it might be hard. but just be a women and mature about it and do it. Just tell him that you didnt care if he DID or DID NOT do anything with that girl. He wont believe you for the moment but he will start to notice it.





Be the Girl that you want to be deep down inside, and the girl That he would like to see in you. If you find your self asking him how he is with that girl, PLEASE bite your tongue or do something. Because then you will mes up everything ! You never know he just might fall back in love with you !





Hope it helps!EX BOYFRIEND PROBLEM PLEASE HELP- KINDA LONG SO IF YOU WANT TO READ PLEASE HELP ME. NO ONE ANSWERED LAST TIME?
i think u should work on getting over him... i know there has to be other guys around that you have been interested in or attracted too and thought well if i wasn't dating so n so then id probably talk to him. we all do it.. so just start talking, experience what other kinds of guys are in the world. and if your ex finds out about it then maybe he will get jealous and come back around. but for now.. your single, have fun with it. hang out with your girls and have some fun that always makes me feel better. but keep him close cuz i definatly think he still cares about u alot

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