Why is playing hard to get so important?

I hate how people have to make this game out of love and the process of starting a relationship.


This guy told me that the reason why things don't develop into a relationship most of the time for me is because I tell the guy I like him too, after he says that he likes me.


He told me I'm not supposed to say I like someone back and needs to play hard to get.


I find this so screwed up. Why is it wrong to be honest with my feelings and say it if I really feel that way? What's up with the games guys play? Why is playing hard to get so important for a guy to take a step towards the girl to be in a relationship with him?





I'm just sad. Maybe it's my lack of experience with guys or being in a relationship, but yeah...





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It is screwed-up to play games in a relationship. This guy, is what we call a ';Player.'; We call him that, because he plays games. Just so you know, boys and girls play games, and men and women don't. Games are for kids. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being open and honest and telling someone you like them.





When you start to play games, you end-up getting hurt, or hurting others. You also end-up missing-out on lots of great opportunities. Chances are, this guy wasn't in a committed relationship and if he continues on this path, he may not be.





There is a huge difference between creating an air of mystery, and being dishonest. I believe that when you play hard to get, you're not being honest. Ultimately, guys get really sick of chasing after girls who play games, and it can destroy trust. You need to be able to trust someone.





As children, we were told not to talk to strangers. Why? Because you can't trust strangers, and they may hurt you. So, why on earth would we date a stranger who has shown they can't be trusted, because they are deceitful? What we want is someone who's open and honest. Every couple whose ever gone to marriage counseling or couples therapy hears that they have to communicate openly and honest with one another. Often, its this very problem that's gotten them into trouble and landed them in therapy. So, it just makes sense to start practicing honesty from the beginning, rather than waiting until something goes horribly wrong.





Creating an air of mystery means not telling every last intimate detail of your life right away. If you do that, then you quickly run out of things to talk about and you can also overwhelm a person with details. If you flood a person with details quickly, its like splashing them with a bucket of water. If you drizzle them out slowly, they have time to consume them and actually get to know you. That, and most people don't really want to get splashed, they're rather be nourished, not splashed. But, telling someone you like them is a great thing to tell someone.





We all like to hear it. The concept behind that game is that we want what we can't have. If the guy doesn't already want you, then he's probably the wrong guy for you. You should be with a guy who appreciates you and wants you, for you, not because he can't have you. You shouldn't have to trick a guy into liking you. He should already like you.





Another thing, if a guy is brave enough to tell you that he likes you, don't be a jerk and say, oh well maybe I don't like you back. It takes a whole lot of courage to admit you like someone, and if you like them back, then yes, be honest with them. We all like to hear that someone likes us, and we definitely like to know that our courageous action was worth it.





You're obviously more mature than this boy is. Avoid boys and date real men, and you'll be alright.





Best of luck in life and love. :-)Why is playing hard to get so important?
Its not about playing hard to get, its about is the person going to make the effort to chase you to begin with, if not you will be chasing them all the days of your life, it is so much easier to be the beloved, you don't have to put a whole lot of effort into a relationship, you can be who you truly are w/o playing games trying to be the person they want.
you Always want what you cant have. When a girl plays hard to get it creates a challenge for the guy, which makes them want you more.
well this answer is going to be just as strange as the question. But believe it or not some of us men like the thrill of chasing you women because it makes us feel accomplished when we get into a relationship we feel like, better yet we KNOW that we have somthing that no one else has. it boost our feelings and is good for the female because now we the man is goin to do everything to keep you around cause we had to work for it. see so maybe the right one has come along yet. but when he does youll forget this time and be happier then ever before in your relationship. hope that made sense.
it's good to be honest...but if you really want to keep a guy, you'll have to play the game. im also like you. and i just realized that the more i try to be honest and open with my feelings, the less my ex felt attracted to me. but now that im not showing much interest, he's been trying to get my attention etc. so u really need to give guys the challenge they crave for. it's part of life and you have to do it to get the guy hooked. he'll keep trying to impress you and wanting more. such is life.